Tramp. That is how people who know me address me. Tramp. Sometimes it has a pejorative ring to it, that word. As if someone wrinkled her nose and said that with a deliberate snub. Not that it matters. I quite like the sound of it. Its impolite, somewhat rude ring. Somewhat like the sudden screech of brakes. No, not any,ordinary brakes. Not the polite, almost apologetic ones of a Maruti 800. Those "govt.owned" buses. With rude “conducters” and cushion less “seats”. The ones that dont just ply on the roads.They rule it.Mom says that word,tramp, with an obvious disapproval. I like it. The dispproval. The snub. I like being a deviant. Perhaps because it’s in a way reassuring to know that I’m not like them. Like my aunts. Like my domesticated cousins. Like my mother. I can go un-chaperoned. I can roam un-chauffered. I can utter the F-word. I’m a tramp. A female one at that. I carry it with an attitude people carry those small square labels on their backsides. Paying as much as they do only for that small piece of leather that says ”LEE”,or “Levis”. Carrying it like a totem. On their back-side.
My wanderings are aimless. Call me a flaneur if you want. But then, there is my double X to acknowledge. The double X. Yeah, I sometimes try to shrug it off. Not react when men turn back to have another “look”. When I know that their gaze wanders and fixes itself. On me. On my body. Wish I could wear a tee that says “Yeah,they are real”.
I’m a voyeur too. I gaze too. Turn to have another look. Try to catch a bit of a personal conversation. And then, just walk by. What do I get? Maybe a personal pleasure. Yeah, pleasure and not joy. Thats something boringly unselfish. That thing called joy. Without temptation. Without the sharp, almost searing kick of a golgappa. The tart of the tamarind that is nothing like the domesticated, modest tomato. And then there is the green chilli. They mingle. They marry. And they seek attention. Almost immediate. Very rude. Almost scalding your tongue. Now,that’s pleasure.
The double X. Sometimes it succeeds where my parents fail. It tames me. Restricts my movements. I do not know where the best girls are. How they look. Wish I knew. The double X.Why am I going on about it? Do I have problems with my identity? Identity.Yes, the double X is my first identity. I see the world through a gendered prism. Even my fears are double X-ed. My fingers curl up into a fist when the double X senses the presence of a Y too close for comfort. Ready to punch.No, I dont hate men. I just dont trust the intentions of the Y. Paranoid? Yes. But, its a "selfish and selective" paranoia,if there is anything like that. No, I just cant shrug it off. My double X-ed identity. Heads turn when I whistel on the streets.When I stop at the roadside chai(tea) stall and ask for a cup of tea. I sense some unasked questions.And some discomfort. I'm taken for the "other",the "stranger" in the city. Unknown to the unwritten codes. Unaware of the genederd spaces. Ignorant of the vernacular idioms.
Stranger.It is my assumed role. I prepare myself for it everday. I dress up for it. I play my part every-day.
u make any tramp, any deviant, any flaneur, any voyeur and on d top of it all any double X go green!
ReplyDeleteHoney thats one of the best piece of selected words plattered before me....it made me empathise at places (e.g. the perspectives built through our "gendered prism"), and aspire without empathy at places (e.g. ur whistles down the road and the stops at a chaiwallah...all by ur self...guess i have been too tamed by my double X to venture that!)...but thanks for writing this...thanks on behalf of all who will read it and feel various things- empathy, sympathy, aspiration, jealousy, realization and wonder!! love you and keep putting out this delicious platter for us!
ReplyDeleteThe world eyes the word "Tramp" as an outcast, but post this publication you might see a tilt in the affection towards tramps ( though that might not be your aim) . A truly heart felt piece - though I might not be able to adequately respond to the double X'ed conditions, yet I do believe that you have stated it aptly. And Yes, we all are voyeurs,guess it's something inbuilt in us from the Cave(wo)man days, when we might have taken taken illicit pleasures peering into the neighbor's cave ( peer - peering, interesting word-root. eh ? ) . And stranger , Now that's a role we play every damn day of our live to a variety of situations, but never even bother to care about and yet here it gains a special significance of its own. First time I ever thought that we do play a role in another's life !!!
ReplyDeleteAwesome work. As said afore, my palate's full. Carry on, dude :)